Fruitfulness, Round Four
A reminiscence and a reminder of the gift of life, from tomatoes to children to our Lord.
This week friends and fellow Lutherans welcomed a son, their fourth. Another baby born! “Isn’t he perfectly beautiful?” Diana rapturously rhapsodized about baby Fred in Anne of the Island, and whether sons are first-born or later, yes, they are. We look forward to a baptism this Sunday—such a joyful occasion!
The buds began to emerge this week, an event we’ve been anticipating for a few weeks, even as we received yet another snowfall. In fact, we were just about to pull into the church lot on Wednesday and the kids cried, “Look! That tree is budding!” Sure enough—and bravely through the whirling white they swayed on the branches. The promise of spring is such a timely reminder of the gift of life. And tomorrow is the Annunciation, the commemoration of Gabriel’s visit to the mother of our Lord. How earth-changing and vast is the Incarnation of our Lord. And how great a reminder to all of us of the priceless, precious gift every life is.
Nearly ten years ago, when we lived in Minnesota, I wrote about the addition of our fourth living child, also a son. At the time, Jon and I had been blessed with going-on-four kids in five years, and more often than not, it felt completely overwhelming. I’ve learned over the years that life holds many stages, and none of them are quite the same. Now we’re in yet another plate-twirling (and I’ll face it, sometimes plate-crashing) stage with seven children between two and fourteen growing up in Wyoming. It’s not the baby stage anymore, as far as we know. God decides to open or close my womb, and there is great comfort in that. But it was definitely harder to remember that as a mercy when I was on the verge of giving birth to our son and already started to fret about when He might bless us again.
One way God reminded me of His perfect plan of life that late summer and early fall was through our garden. A bumper crop barely encompasses the magnitude of abundance we were given that year, both in our garden growth and in our children. But you can read about it yourselves.
Last week, post-yard-sale and some back labor excitement, Jon picked tomatoes from the garden. This is what the counter looked like after I'd cleaned half of the take from three five-gallon buckets.
Suffice it to say, we've had a bumper garden harvest this year. Since early August, I've been freezing green beans, sweet corn (not from our garden but from three different church members--sweet corn had a good year here, too), preparing eggplant and squash and cucumbers, and this month we've been tackling the pepper and tomato haul. Yes, it's been a lot of work. We're also very thankful the garden has borne such bounty, especially considering the late spring and the fact that we were gone for four weeks after Jon planted. (So Nancy, if you're reading this and still at all concerned that your watering efforts in July went to waste, please, PLEASE fret no more. God used your efforts to great success.)
In fact, our tomato load last week was the fourth round of our tomato haul. The first resulted in twelve pints of hot salsa and seven quarts of tomatoes in their own juice. The second begat twelve pints of mild salsa and multiple quarts of peeled, frozen tomatoes. The third produced over twelve gallons of frozen tomatoes (see how my energy with each round diminished?). The fourth round, by sheer size alone, demanded extra effort.
So when I decided to make tomato sauce with all two-thirds of Jon’s latest picking, I had a lot of time to think about garden harvests and familial blessings. Sitting in the kitchen, destemming and slicing up countless tomatoes for what turned out to be over ten quarts of sauce (which, if you've done this before, means roughly sixty pounds of tomatoes were involved), and wincing every time Baby decided to make his presence known (the guy's running out of room!), I pondered the mysteries of fruitfulness.
Jon’s planted a garden every summer we've been here, and we've had some good years. He's rotated placement, Miracle-Gro-ed, swapped out different varieties of produce, and tried different spacing. He's tried onions and radishes with little success. This year, he tweaked again, but not enough to account for the haul. Our backyard neighbors planted a few tomato plants scarcely twenty feet from our garden and didn't get a single tomato for their work. Yet we planted and basically left the little green squirts alone and now find ourselves inundated.
My human nature says that it's not fair. I'm ten months pregnant. Why all this work at this particular time? But what a silly, whiny response. I could dwell on the effort such bounty requires to preserve and sustain, but that seems beyond ungrateful. It doesn't even make sense. Gardens by their very nature are supposed to produce. And when they do, we give thanks. On the flip side, our bounty seems unfair to all the gardeners who spend this month wondering what went wrong.
It would seem judicious if everyone got at least a little something for all of their gardening efforts, a kind of socialist Peter Rabbit agreement, but sometimes it just doesn't happen. Sometimes the bunnies and birds wreak havoc. Sometimes the weather soaks or scorches. Sometimes seeds and seedlings just don't take due to soil or weeds or for causes we can never determine. Experts have spent and still spend countless hours attempting to explain why things grow and why they don't. But even finding reasons why things don't grow can't suddenly make them grow. Even having all kinds of scientific answers as to how and why life can happen can't actually create and sustain life itself.
Gardens are one thing; families and children quite another. I think of my friends and others whose arms and hearts ache with emptiness, from children desired and children taken to Jesus. Like agricultural scientists and researchers and farmers, doctors and specialists can only explain so much. This is not to diminish their God-given expertise and aid in any way. It is only to say that they are not God, and they cannot act as Life-creater. Sometimes we fool ourselves into thinking they can be, that technology or drugs or some combination of scientific theory and practice in the hands of certain people can do what only God can do. But we also see too much suffering and tragedy to believe such a lie. Seemingly healthy children die young. Healthy women are infertile. And children who should not statistically survive do.
My sister and I are such exceptions. We were born over thirty years ago at twenty-eight weeks gestation. That’s twelve weeks, or about two-and-a-half months, before our due date. We were given less than a ten percent chance of survival at birth, but we both did. And only God knows why. We can speculate, of course. But the truth is that we don't know. And we can only trust that God's ways are best, even when we don't know His reasons for life or for death, for fruitfulness or for barrenness.
Such may sound glib or callous, an easy write-off for unanswerable burdens that provides no comfort. Instead, it is a life-saving trust in a sea of loss and suffering. We pray a meal prayer sometimes that begins with verses from Psalm 145: The eyes of all look to You, O Lord, and You give them their food in due season. You open Your hand; You satisfy the desire of every living thing (14-15). We give thanks for the nutrients God provides us for our bodies. We acknowledge that only He can give us what we need, when we need it, be it food or health or children or any number of gifts. And ultimately, whether we like it or not, we bow to the inevitable scarcity or abundance that He provides, as He sees fit. We don't like this, because it means our efforts mean, well, nothing in the face of whether God withholds or blesses.
But we also know that His gifts are always good. His good gifts always satisfy our greatest need—that we need Him, that we are, in fact, completely helpless apart from Him. And He provides for us in multiple ways, too, just not always in the forms we desire or expect. Neighbors bring extra asparagus and apples (or they get five-gallon buckets of tomatoes). Some years are corn-heavy and tomato-light. Some arms hold one child or two or many, biological or adopted, and others hold nieces or nephews or godchildren or congregational children. Regardless, we receive. And—this is a hard truth—if God ordains that we should bodily starve or bear the cross of barrenness or loss, we trust that His ways are not our ways, His care not ours. This is a terrible truth, but one on which our very lives depend. Abraham wielded a knife over his only son. Mary watched hers be pierced and nailed and suffocate and die. Both wept and ached and suffered. But none more so than He who made them to begin with, Who bore and bled and died and rose to give us life that would never end, that would never stop giving.
Our family waits and prays in these days for God to bless us with another child, who is our fourth living one. This baby has grown unseen and mostly unknown, though we cherish our time with his kicks and his hiccups, and even his sunny-side up turn. God knows the days He has prepared for this little one, and we trust in His promises for us and for our child, that He will never leave us or foresake us, though we all will pass someday from this veil of tears. And so we give thanks for His mysterious bounty, in all of its forms. Bless us, O Lord, and these Your gifts, which we receive from Your bountiful goodness. Through Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
This was first published at my Forgiven Olsons blog in September 2013. It has been lightly edited.